We know that everyone has both challenges and strengths. When dealing with disabilities, we tend to look at things fatalistically. Why is this? I argue that it’s partially due to the way we’re conditioned to view disability – when someone has unusual challenges because they don’t meet expectations, we have this idea that (a) they never will, in spite of intervention or accommodation; or (b) there is no place for them and (c) because there is something irrevocably wrong (instead of different) (d) and when there is something wrong, that it cannot be adjusted.
These are myths.
Sometimes we’re truly inhibited by some aspects of our condition in some areas of life. But should we make a fish climb a tree? Or should we put the fish in rushing water, and see it at its best? And if that fish has trouble swimming, shouldn’t we figure out why? Shouldn’t we try to help? The right kind of support can make all the difference.
Self-disclosure, I never did well in math. I might never become a mathematician. Good thing is, I never let that upset me, because I would pay good money to make sure I never become one. I’ve taken steps towards becoming what I’m good at.
We adapt where we need to in order to achieve what we can and want to in life.
I subscribe to the social model of disability.
Disabled or not, we are people. Not only do we have rights, but we have value, dignity, and untapped potential.
If you would like a complimentary resource brokerage and support consultation, feel free to reach out at any time. I am a crisis intervention counselor at Crisis Text Line and a motivational coach.